Thursday, December 14, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"


"Celebrate Love At Christmas...  Live Fearlessly"




"And The Truth Shall Set You Free..."


These Dads Share Pics of Their Beautiful Family to Help Inspire Others

Gayswithkids.com
Dec. 06, 2017

Former members of the Church of Latter Day Saints (better known as the Mormons), Jared and Chad, recently got engaged in the most romantic city in the world. As they walked along the Seine in Paris, after midnight, Chad told Jared that he'd asked their three kids if it was okay if he proposed to their dad.

"He said they were really excited and happy, and so I have something to ask you," Jared said, describing the proposal. "And that's when he got down on one knee and proposed."

The two plan to marry in September 2018. But the road that led Chad and Jared to find each other was a complicated one. Jared is a father to three children from a previous straight relationship, and both are ex-members of the LDS Church. Here's how the men learned to first love themselves and then found one another.


Jarad and Chad got engaged in Paris

When Jared was 21 and just returning from serving a full-time LDS mission, he confided in his church leaders and his bride-to-be about his sexuality.

"They were all very encouraging," said Jared. "At the time, that was what you told guys who were dealing with homosexuality, or in their mind, toying with it."

They encouraged Jared to get married, in what was called a "mixed-orientation" marriage. The LDS Church believes marriage to be a stage of life that is required by followers in order to go to heaven. Jared and his ex-wife were led to believe that by praying and going to the temple, his homosexual urges would disappear.

They made it through eight years of marriage, and during this time, they had three children together. Ultimately, they tried to keep their marriage together for their kids.

"We really put up a good fight to try and do it for the kids." said Jared. "But we got to a point where we realized that what we believed in life and the LDS church didn't fit that pathway."

Jared's ex-wife knew he needed to be with a man, and she needed a man who could fulfill her own needs. Their split was amicable, and they decided it was best to leave the church. They now co-parent their three kids together.


Jared had spent so much of his life fighting his authentic self and being dedicated to his church that learning to accept his sexual orientation was a challenge. But his ex-wife supported him and encouraged him to be happy and live his life. Jared's family also wanted him to be happy and to know that he is loved.


Chad's involvement with the LDS church, however, was a bit different to Jared's. Originally from California, Chad moved to Utah when his mother remarried. He was 18 at the time. Chad's relationship with the church was more relaxed, he surmises, since he had lived in California rather than Utah. Chad explained that there can be a big difference for Mormon kids who live outside of the state.


Chad went on a 2-year mission soon after moving to Utah, and when he returned, he said he tried to date Mormon girls to pretend that he was straight. He stopped after awhile, realizing that his feelings for them weren't going anywhere. Chad eventually came out to his family, who were accepting.

Chad and Jared met over a year ago on a photo shoot. Chad is a professional photographer. Jared, a model and videographer, was being pestered by his agent for new portfolio shots. Jared found Chad's profile on Facebook.

"I liked his work and then I clicked on his profile saw that he was really handsome and I was like, 'Okay, well, I'll just send out a FB request anyway.'"

Chad responded and they set up a photo shoot. After the shoot, the guys had time to talk. They ended up talking for two hours in Chad's truck, and immediately felt a connection. After dating for months and establishing their commitment to each other, Chad met the kids.


Jared's three children took to Chad almost immediately.

"They really love Chad," said Jared. "I dare to say that they like him more than they like me. I'm obviously the disciplinarian, and he's the fun new dad that loves them."

Both Jared and Chad had always wanted children. For Chad, to became dad (who the kids call his "Chaddy") almost overnight was like a dream come true.

The two dads share many of their family photos on their very popular Instagram accounts. Their photos are stunning and capture beautiful moments of the family enjoying quality time together. They created their accounts to show their out and proud family, and how happy they are now that they love themselves.


Chad and Jared have a message for others who are not yet out.

"Regardless of what your past is, you can still accomplish personal happiness, and family is a big part of that … Even though it's not traditional and it doesn't look the same, we can still have everything we wanted growing up. That's what we're showing. We're happy and we're being ourselves."

The dads get emails and messages constantly from their followers, telling them how much their accounts have helped them be happy and to accept themselves.


The newly engaged couple want people to know that it's an ongoing process for them, too. Happiness is attainable, they say, but you have to work for it.

"Things will get better," says Chad. "It's always a process. Just love yourself. Don't try and please other people."

"That's the best way to put it," added Jared. "And I think, ultimately, it's true what they say, love always wins."

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For more stunning family photos by Chad and Jared make sure to check their blog. Follow the dads on their Instagram accounts: @chadshehee @jleolyn. For Chad's professional photography website, visit here.



"We Were Always There..."


Fred and Jack - Christmas 1959



"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2905"


"Christmas Is The Season Of Love And Togetherness..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.



"Adam and Andy..."


I love James Asal's "Adam and Andy" strip
Married life really is like this.

"The Truth About Who We Are..."


Octavio, Painter, Brasilia, Brazil
by thegaymenproject
photos by Kevin Truong

Oct├ívio, in his own words: "Being gay means allowing myself to be who I am; it means not to worry about following some patterns or standards that are ruled and dictated by a homophobic society. Homosexuality is just one of so many characteristics that I have, just a part of me. Honestly, I’m more disturbed by my tendency to get a bit sweaty than being gay, talk about sweating the small stuff!


When I was thirteen, I discovered that I might be gay. At first I became really worried about that and tried to deny the possibility. At that time, I was living abroad and had no friends. So I decided to keep myself quiet and save this secret with me. When I came back to Brazil, I was enrolled in a military high school. By then I already knew that I was gay, but to blend - to be accepted and to preserve my "identity" - I started following and adopting straight customs. In this struggling environment, I joined my school's glee club. It represented for me a place where I could strip off that behavior designed to fit in, and started being myself. There I met a girl who became my best friend. For the first time, with her, I opened myself and shared my secret about my sexuality. Her reception was the best I could expect, and I started feeling lighter from that day on. A few months later, I decided to talk about things with my parents. I was expecting a violent reception, perhaps even being kicked out of my home. To my surprise, I was accepted and embraced. At the beginning, they sent me to a neurologist, because they believed that I was mentally ill and that homosexuality was a disease. For one year, I had psychological counseling. Over time we discovered together that I've always been gay and that homosexuality is not a disease and nothing has changed in my behavior since I came out. Actually, I've became happier and more buoyant. Nowadays, my parents treat me with the same respect that they treat my two sisters that are straight. In our family we can speak openly about any subject now.



I was a very sensitive and creative kid, but during my oppressive and repressive adolescence, I left my creative side behind. After I came out, I started not to care anymore about the opinions of others about my choices. Like, I didn't care if they thought choosing an artistic career could look like a ‘gay’ thing. So I started to chase my dreams. For two years, I studied Architecture and Urbanism at university, but I found my true calling and personal fulfillment in the visual and fine arts. I've discovered myself as a painter, and studied Art History during an exchange year at the University of Florence in Italy. I continually expose my art all over the world (and online using my website, www.octaviorold.com). In the beginning, I was afraid that my sexuality could impact on my audience; perhaps people would decide not to go to my exhibitions just because I'm gay. But I have found that art touches people, and our deepest essence as human beings doesn't have prejudice.


Despite being comfortable with my sexuality, I'm generally not into dance clubs. I know that there is a really good gay environment in Brasilia and it has a lot of good options for those that want to have some fun. I think that Brasilia is a gay-friendly city, and I've never suffered explicit homophobic aggression in the form of verbal or physical abuse.




If I could give Tavinho (‘Little Tavio’) advice, I would tell him to try to be more confident and not to worry so much about following standards. I would tell him to live fully and let the universe be in charge of the rest."



"The Whisper Of Truth..."


The Whisper app allows users in anonymity to share secrets.

"Fear Eats the Soul"



"Love And Life's Journeys..."


From the work of Chicago born photographer Richard Renaldi. Over the course of more than a decade, Richard has recorded images of himself and his partner Seth Boyd in their hotel rooms across the country and around the world for his project "Hotel Room Portraits."

I fell in love with these images from the very first time that I saw them. There is something incredibly familiar and comforting in recognizing not only the love between Richard and Seth, but also the rigors of travel and the occasional weary eyes and tiredness that we all fall prey to. Moreover, these photos reveal an intimacy and comfortableness that one finds only when two people are truly in love... They reveal "love and life's journeys."

Richard Renaldi was born in Chicago in 1968. He received his BFA in photography from New York University in 1990. Exhibitions of his photographs have been mounted in galleries and museums throughout the United States, Asia, and Europe. In 2006 Renaldi's first monograph, Figure and Ground, was published by the Aperture Foundation. His second monograph, Fall River Boys, was released in 2009. Richard Renaldi is the founder and publisher of Charles Lane Press.



"Selfie Love..."


"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...




"The Artist's Corner..."


"Roland with Xmas Ornaments collected with Norbert"
Oil on canvas
George Towne



Wednesday, December 13, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"


"Love At Christmastime...  Live Fearlessly"




"Selfie Love..."


"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...



"Love And Life's Journeys..."


From the work of Chicago born photographer Richard Renaldi. Over the course of more than a decade, Richard has recorded images of himself and his partner Seth Boyd in their hotel rooms across the country and around the world for his project "Hotel Room Portraits."

I fell in love with these images from the very first time that I saw them. There is something incredibly familiar and comforting in recognizing not only the love between Richard and Seth, but also the rigors of travel and the occasional weary eyes and tiredness that we all fall prey to. Moreover, these photos reveal an intimacy and comfortableness that one finds only when two people are truly in love... They reveal "love and life's journeys."

Richard Renaldi was born in Chicago in 1968. He received his BFA in photography from New York University in 1990. Exhibitions of his photographs have been mounted in galleries and museums throughout the United States, Asia, and Europe. In 2006 Renaldi's first monograph, Figure and Ground, was published by the Aperture Foundation. His second monograph, Fall River Boys, was released in 2009. Richard Renaldi is the founder and publisher of Charles Lane Press.



"We Were Always There..."




"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2904"


"Christmas Dreams..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.



"Fan Art Is Fantastic..."





"Adam and Andy..."


I love James Asal's "Adam and Andy" strip
Married life really is like this.

"The Truth About Love..."


Everything is a mystery with Love--his arrows, his quiver, his torch, his childlike appearance. It's not the work of one day to understand the breadth of his science.

- Mina Samuels



"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."


Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."


Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...


"Fear Eats the Soul"



"The Artist's Corner..."


Rick Chris



Tuesday, December 12, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"


"Love And Be Happy...  Live Fearlessly"




"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."


Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."


Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...


"Fear Eats the Soul"



"The Truth About Love..."


Love, like the cold bath, is never negative, it seldom leaves us where it finds us; if once we plunge into it, it will either heighten our virtues, or inflame our vices.

- Charles Caleb Colton



"Adam and Andy..."


I love James Asal's "Adam and Andy" strip
Married life really is like this.

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